A Note from Kelly King: Many times leaders portray strength and courage. They don’t often lead from their limp—the things that have caused pain or struggle. In today’s article, Kaye Hurta shares the importance of leaders finding healing through their walk with Christ and through the help of professionals. Kaye is going to be writing the Friday articles on ministering to women in crisis. I know you will find help in her words over the coming months.
We have a saying in my neck of the woods: “Leaders go first.”
Which is to say, leaders go first by example, or, you can’t lead someone where you are not willing to go yourself.
One way leaders go first is in the area of their own healing and wholeness. When I suggest a woman seek out a Christian counselor, it’s because I’ve seen one myself and know first hand how valuable it is to have someone help you navigate through a difficult season.
The pain and hurt we face as women—especially in our culture—does not happen in a vacuum. Our present wounds and pain almost always have roots reaching into something from our past, from our story. If not, it certainly has the ability to trigger something in us or bring something to the surface.
So, I have to ask, how willing are you to look at the things in your own story that are painful, whether it is past or present?
Are you willing to go first?
Are you willing to seek help for any unresolved pain or wounding in your life?
Quite often, the response to that question is, “Why is it necessary to bring up the past? It’s over; there’s nothing I can do to change it now.” Here’s why: while it’s true we are linear, and our days have a beginning and an end, God is not linear. We can’t physically go back on our timeline, but He can. When we give His Spirit access to wounds and pain once hidden or unresolved, it allows Him the freedom to do something supernatural in that place. Only God can pour out healing and hope over something that seemed too broken to mend and too painful to heal. He is able! This is the hope we must share with hurting women, beginning with ourselves.
Leaders go first in other areas as well…
- In conflict resolution, healthy communication, honesty, humility, and serving.
- In courage, character, competence, and integrity.
- Leaders go first in listening well and loving well.
In the days ahead, we’ll explore more in those areas and how it relates to ministering to hurting women. You may actually grow tired of hearing me say, “Leaders go first.”
In the area of going first, if you had to rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 (10 being awesome!), where do you fall on the scale?
What could you do today, this week, and this month to move that number up the scale?
Kaye has a Masters Degree in counseling from Liberty University and is a crisis counselor for Women’s Events through LifeWay Christian Resources. Whether speaking, singing, or listening, Kaye’s passion is to help others find intimacy with Christ and soul transformation through the living pages of His Word. Kaye met and married her husband Chris in Austin, Texas in 1987. They have two daughters through the miracle of adoption, Madison and Cami. They live in the Chicago burbs where they are both on staff at Willow Creek Community Church. Kaye is also a contributing author for the LifeWay resource, Women Reaching Women in Crisis.