A Note from Chris Adams: We’d like to think this topic doesn’t need to be addressed when talking about ministry to moms. But it must be. Deb Douglas, Director of Biblical Counseling at First Baptist Church, Bossier City, LA gives us insight and guidance about how we can make sure our moms are seeking God’s direction regarding sexual purity in a porn-prone world.
Open up Facebook, turn on the TV, read a romance novel, go to the movies, glance at a billboard driving down the road. That’s how easy it is to take a sneak peak into the world of pornography. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. We are being drowned in pornography and the effects of it every day.
Pornography is a 13 billion dollar a year industry in the U.S., invading every sector of population. Every sector means church families too. Every sector means moms also. None of us are immune from the lure and the destruction of pornography.
How do women’s ministers help moms in a world of sexual impurity?
- Set up accountability in the home. Accountability is the most effective way to protect families from a porn invasion. Every family needs accountability; it removes the stress of the temptation of online porn. Keeping laptops and computers in eyesight and in public areas is an easy step towards accountability.
- Grab a partner. A fight is easier with a partner or a team. Doing so provides encouragement, accountability, and the discipline needed to resist.
- Talk it out. In small groups, in newsletters, and in Bible study, share information about the sex industry and pornography. Talking about pornography and sexual immorality begins a conversation in which moms can find answers to their most heart-pounding questions.
- Be safe. By being open, honest, and confidential, one on one conversation are more easily begun. Moms will feel open to discussing problems and seeking prayer support and encouragement.
- Get prepped. Learn all there is to learn about how to talk to children about the sex trade industry and porn. Share what you learn with moms to equip them in how to talk to their children about porn and the damage porn addiction causes.
- Know the facts. Pornography is not a victimless encounter. Many of the participants (actors or models) have been trafficked. Pornography causes damage to the way in which men and women see themselves and others. The effects of pornography have long term damaging effects. The sex industry is the second highest crime income in the United States. It’s all about money, caring nothing for the damage caused by their product.
What do moms do when their home is invaded?
- Enlist others to pray with the mom.
- Extinguish any sparks of guilt or shame. Shame is always a fiery arrow!
- Listen to her heartache.
- Refer her to local resources and help.
Hiding from the pervasive presence of pornography in our society will not make it go away. Sexual immorality has been a problem since biblical days, but encouraging moms and families to make the biblical choice of saying, “No” to pornography will bring freedom from the chains of sin.
Brave a different world. Check out these websites to find out more about the sex industry:
- Watch this movie: http://nefariousdocumentary.com
Dr. Deb Douglas has served in women’s ministry for over 37 years. Now she spends her time working with Purchased Ministry, a ministry to women in the sex trade industry. Deb is also the Director of Biblical Counseling at First Baptist Church, Bossier City, LA. She was the first to graduate from New Orleans Baptist Theological seminary with a Masters degree focusing on women’s ministry and has earned a Doctor of Education in Ministry degree from NOBTS. She is “Pearl” to 3 sweet grand babies, “Mom” to Jared Douglas and Katie Chavis, and wife/sweetheart to Paul Douglas.